“I always ruin things.”

When your voice says:

“I ruin everything I touch.”

“Look at all my past mistakes. This proves it again.”

Coach Lynn says:

That is overgeneralization. One event, even a painful one, is not proof of an unchanging pattern.

Then you say:

Here’s what I need to do:

• Take one or more Composure Breaths to settle my body.
• Pinpoint the exact situation triggering my reaction.
• Recall a single counterexample—an instance where I managed a challenge effectively, made amends, or acted with genuine care.
• Select an appropriate, balanced action tailored specifically to this event.

Coach Lynn says:

A single difficult event isn’t your entire story. When you widen your focus to remember what you’ve overcome and restored, you respond to today’s challenge with a balanced perspective and steady composure.