“If I don’t manage this, it will fall apart.”

When your voice says:

“If I don’t hold every piece together, it all falls apart.”

“Letting go of anything means risking everything.”

Coach Lynn says:

Over-responsibility can make you carry more than one person can reasonably hold. Not everything is yours to manage.

Then you say:

Here’s what I need to do:

• Settle my body with one or more Composure Breaths.
• Make three quick lists: "Mine to do," "I can influence," and "Not mine." Put each piece of the situation on one list.
• Pick one action from "Mine to do" and do it today.
• Pick one item from "Not mine" and let it go. Say: "That belongs to ___, not me." Then stop working on it.

Coach Lynn says:

Caring about the outcome doesn’t mean carrying every part of it. When you act on what you control and release the rest, the load gets lighter and you lead with a clear, steady mind.