“I should have done more.”

When your voice says:

“I should have known better back then.”

“I could have done so much more.”

Coach Lynn says:

Hindsight can make the past look simpler than it felt while you were inside it. A fair review includes what was realistically possible then.

Then you say:

Here’s what I need to do:

• Take one or more Composure Breaths to settle my body.
• Go back to that moment and write down what I knew then, the help I had, and what I was dealing with, such as time, energy, stress, or other demands.
• List what I actually did, including the small efforts I'm overlooking.
• Name one thing I'd do differently with what I know now, and let that be enough. I did what I could with what I had.

Coach Lynn says:

Hindsight sees what the moment couldn't. When you judge your past self by what you knew then, you keep the lesson, drop the blame, and move forward wiser.