“It’s all-or-nothing”

When your voice says:

“If it isn’t perfect, the whole thing is worthless.”

“Either this is a flawless success or it’s a total failure.”

Coach Lynn says:

That is the inner judge collapsing a wide range of decent, useful, and worthwhile outcomes into two extremes that do not actually exist.

Then you say:

Here’s what I need to do:

• Take one or more Composure Breaths to settle my body.
• Name one part that is working, out loud: “The … works pretty well.”
• Define what “good enough for now” looks like.
• Finish the task to that standard.

Coach Lynn says:

Done and imperfect beats perfect and unfinished. When you define “good enough for now” and finish to that standard, you trade the inner judge’s pressure for real progress.